Dear men,
It is not easy being leaders. In fact it is not easy being leaders by default but that is our lot and we have to embrace it as the soldiers that we are. In view of this, there are some favors I believe we have to do ourselves to excel in this God-given role.
- Let us admit our weakness for beauty: Beauty turns heads especially ours. We must admit it to be able to stand against it if it is used as a weapon. If we don’t admit our weakness, we can do nothing to defend against it. Beauty is not all in all, character is much more important!
- Let us admit our weakness for sex: We are hard-wired to choose sex over food. Think about it. Denying this is hypocrisy. When we admit our weakness for sex, we won’t put ourselves in situations in which our animalistic parts will take over. We can even control our sexual urges when we admit our weakness and train it.
- Let us learn patience: THIS IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. We are not patient. We have to learn patience. I personally believe this is one of the root causes of bad relationships and divorces plaguing our society these days. We have to patiently develop ourselves. We have to learn patience in all our ventures – work, choosing a partner, etc. So what do we do when we are waiting, while developing ourselves? We work. Yes, we engage in work. Without doing something while we wait, waiting is super extremely hard.
- Let us accept our roles as hunters and learn hunting: In the dating field, we are hunters. But most of us are so poor at hunting, it is shameful. We need to take time and patiently learn how to hunt. Some episodes of NatGEO Wild would be helpful. We can learn a lot from the big cats.
- Let us learn to control ourselves: Especially our desires for sex, women and food. Self-Control and delayed gratification are keys great men master and we must master them too. We have to be more patient than women, Remember the hunter analogy? We have to undertake exercises that will strengthen our patience muscle.
- Let us learn to create boundaries: We are men not door mats. We must create boundaries and fiercely protect it. The lions can once again teach us how to do it. A lack of boundaries invite a lack of respect. Can we tolerate disrespect?
- Let us learn to not tolerate disrespect while protecting women: A man who tolerates disrespect is probably still a boy. And we are not to compete with women but to protect and complement them.
- Let us build our bodies: There is absolutely nothing wrong with body building. Body building is a good thing. It makes us look good and feel more confident.
- Let us learn to depend on God: To not depend on God (and the Bible) is a mistake. He is our only true source of joy and truth
- Let us not be weak in character: A weak man in character is a disgrace to manhood. Don’t weak men disgust you? We are soldiers. We are hard. We are strong. That’s who we are!
- Let us be brave as men: Soldiers are brave. A man who is coward is probably a woman.
- Let us learn to lead: We are the natural leaders of the world. No matter how much women bluff, we are the leaders. Let’s learn the Art of Leadership.
- Let us learn faith and hope and love! – We must have faith in what will be. Without faith, we can not create anything significant. Hope is key – we must hope for the best always. Being an optimist is always better than being a pessimist. And finally, love. Someone said women were created to love and be loved. We must learn how to live at peace with the feminine and this includes loving them properly.
- Let us learn to have vision and focus on it – What makes us special is our work. What we create while on earth. A man with vision is an unstoppable creature if he focuses on it. Vision gives us purpose and purpose gives us something to live up to. Let us stay true to your vision brothers!